Your New Year’s resolution seemed solid. Now it’s February and you’ve lost your motivation. Refresh.
By now, many of us have abandoned, or at least downgraded, our expectations for what we will do to change our lives in 2012.
Amy Alexander, writing for Investor’s Business Daily, sought tips from goal-setting experts such as Pace’s Dr. Richard Shadick on how to reframe, or possibly even leverage, the slump that can happen in February when it comes to New Year’s resolutions.
Get smart. “Most resolutions go awry because people do not think through what it takes to reach a goal,” said psychologist Richard Shadick, director of Pace University’s Counseling Center in New York City. “Instead of telling yourself ‘I am going to lose weight and be healthy next year,’ it is better to say ‘I will lose 5 pounds by March 15th by walking for 20 minutes three days a week and no longer drinking soda.'”
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They are routines you probably take for granted — throwing in a load of laundry, keeping track of your debit card statement, remembering to eat vegetables with dinner so you get nutrients. Then you realize your college-bound high-school senior has used only paper money, eats three meals of Pop-Tarts and may not even know where the washing machine is.
Rather than frantically trying to teach your teens life skills as they’re packing up next August, college staffers say it’s best to start the instruction now.
College officials recommend getting students used to better time management this year, preferably by buying them a paper planner or setting up an electronic one. Richard Shadick, director of the counseling center for Pace University in New York City, says he often sees freshmen struggling when teachers don’t remind them five times about a due date.
College “faculty members tend to be a bit more hands-off,” he told the Cape Cod Times.
In a senior year that’s already full of college applications to fill out and school celebrations to participate in, teaching your child these skills can seem like another chore to check off the list. Shadick recommends linking learning these skills to the fun idea of going to college.
“Play on the student’s excitement,” he says.
In the wake of a national tragedy like the Tucson shooting last week, an entire country mourns.
“When there is a national tragedy, the emotions of dealing with it can often set off or remind people of personal tragedies, which can lead to depression,” says Richard Shadick, Ph.D., director of Pace University’s Counseling Center in New York City. “Public mourning of a national event can help people to deal with the personal feelings, but can also bring depressive emotions to the surface.”
Grieving through a national tragedy can be incredibly complex. Experts say the public deals with survivor’s guilt immediately following a trauma, and these feelings can be exacerbated by 24-7 news coverage. In the aftermath of the violent attack on Rep. Gabrielle Giffords in Tucson, Ariz., which left six people dead, including a 9-year-old girl, the country is mourning collectively as we try to pick up the pieces.
Here’s how to work your way through the Five Stages of Grief — Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.